Gary Chepman “5 children of love”

We offer several ideas directly to parents. Read and select one of them to try something new that your child, in your opinion, will appreciate.
If your child's main love language is TOUCH …
 your little or say goodbye to him, take him in your hands and keep it. If a child is small, he will be dead.
 gives the child a soft object, such as a blanket, to calm down.
 hughs and kisses the child every day he goes to school and comes home; a little child before a nightmare wraps around the blanket.
 when the child talks about a hard day or is crazy, stroking his hair and massaging his back.
 took a moment after a disciplinary measure to embrace the child, showing that the punishment was a consequence of a bad choice, but you still love him and lolo because he is your child.
 touch each other on the sofa as you watch the television show together.
 every time you follow a child with something positive, suggest 'give five' or make a similar welcome.
 bought a child mostly satiable gift, such as a soft cushion, blanket or sweater.
 calls a “group embrace” from time to time for the whole family, no matter how big or small it is. For more fun, take a family pet dog, dog or cat.
 to play games with touch elements for shared games or sporting. Twofold: a time spent together and a meaningful touch with no coercive signs.
 with children sing songs with motion elements such as bowling, swirling, or eating. Many modern children'S DVD records simplify this case.
 shrugs a wrestling fight with a child, but is careful not to make the process too strained for the child.
 a younger child reading the books and keeping him in his lap.
 time when the child is sick or hurt, for example, with a cool cloth in the face.
 your family during the prayer.
If your child's main love language is THE ATTESTATION WORDS …
 a leaf with cheerful words in the baby's lunch box
 the habit of mentioning something specific that emphasizes the doorway of the child. That might be, for example: “I really appreciate your kind treatment for that second child!” “Or:“ I liked your positive attitude in the course of the game ”
 asks what your child would like to do or what to become when you grow up. Then choose the encouragement to help these dreams. If the daughter says “when i grow up, i want to be a veterinarian”, “i think you might be a good vettist.”
 a message to an older child, confirming how much he means to you. Or better - introduce it as a habit when you have to travel on a mission or to some special festival, such as a birthday.
 if you have an artist's doorway, painting or drawing a proof of how much you love your child.
 frames a child's drawing or another deal with the note why it is so important for you.
 at home whenever you think of a child, call him to say “I love you.”
 makes a special mistake in which the child is only called.
 when you have to go on a mission or another reason, leave the child a short series of notes, one for each day until you're home.
 the habit of “I love you” every time you get in their blanket or when you're sorry.
 a child's art work in places he recognizes as important to you: in a refrigerator, office or special album.
 the child's mood below zero gives you five reasons why you are proud of him.
 the breakfast flakes, the bathroom mirror, or another place where the child is sure to look, leave the note, the simple note “Daddy loves you”, or “Mommy loves you” in the original location can prove very powerful.
 bought a variety of forefores and put out children's pictures. About these photographs in the presence of children, tell your family or friends.
 makes a mug of encouragement, where you and your child, Iemetat, are praised and read them together.
 on the driveway with a chalk with the words of encouragement - you can also make it as a surprise to the child.
 if the child is wrong, trying to be helpful, first say words that confirm that you are aware of his good intentions.
If your child's main love language is TIME SPENT...
 when the child tells you something important, stops the start and looks at the child.
 to spend time with a child, don't let him wait until you do all the small homework, but involve him in the day-to-day process: washing, buying food or gardening. The moments spent together will reduce the importance of the fact that such work might be a little long.
 a healthy snack together, such as a plate with cut fruit.
 laugh together for something stupid, which is worth a good smile.
 an older child to buy a photograph for important events.
 the television program from her show to the child's favorite show to look together.
 a toy store without intent to buy a few ridiculous toys.
 on the day of the day of the child ask very specific questions which cannot be answered by yes or no.
 when you go to a park or playground with younger children, get into games instead of watching them from the park bench. The swinging of a daughter in swing or the slip of a son on a slider-hill forms the memory of a life of memory and expresses love.
 time for artistic activities - singing together or drawing with fingers instead of playing on the screen.
 plans a specific “date” with each of the children separately. Records in the calendar and look at a priority that will not be overlapped by others.
 gives the child a surprise: tickets or travel to a special place. Permanent memories could leave camping campsites, a superior basketball game, or a day in a big city. And the photographs from this event will further strengthen the surprise.
 if it is possible, someday takes the child to work. Introduce your colleagues and take them to dinner.
 a place to play in the house. The garage room can become a “palace” and a garage compartment as a “workshop”.
 older children in holiday planning with common searches on the Internet.
 is a camp, even if it is a plain tent in the garden. In order for the impression to be full, lights and camp-specific foods are used.
 occasionally arranges family hiking or trips with bicycles. Find opportunities for sharing time with physical exercise elements.
 your family meals more frequently. Let the dinner become a special event with talks about the day of the day. This is also strengthened by family prayers.
 a few minutes to prepare a child for a nightmare, a evening story, a conversation about a day, or a shared prayer can become a highlight of a day-to-day plan.
 with older children fill “homework”: they – school tasks, you - work projects. Tell me what projects you're working on.
 together in the garden. If children like to spend time outside, eat flower holes, eat summer vegetables, or create a stone garden. This may result in a positive memory of life.
 photo albums on your computer. Discuss the memory associated with the events in question.
 in the same room during a rainy time and read each of your books or magazines.
If your child's main love language is GIFTS …
 handles in the Inventory, outside the sight of the child, and the enthusiasm. When you feel that a child needs to be pleased, give one of them.
 chooses gifts that match the best interests of the child.
 leaves delicious or candy to “treat” when you're away from home.
 a meal in a meal that saves the child; go to a special diner or make his favorite freezer.
 loads unusual gift boxes and packaged papers to be used to pack the simplest gifts.
 when you're away from home, send a sachet to the child, on which his name is written.
 makes coupons that a child can “repress” in a favorite way, such as dinner with spaghetti, an extra half hour in your company before bedtime or a gift he can pick up next time.
 presents a “gift bag” with cheap gifts, one of which can be selected as a prize when you do something good.
 the snacks that the child usually eats after school make a memorable event and serve a special plate.
 buy or order gifts with a child's name. It was an encouraging surprise to a rainy or hard day.
 give the child a song: either self-conscious or someone who thinks he is.
 sarīko the treasure hunting by looking for a gift: prepare a map and threads on the way to the main surprise.
 hide a gift in a baby's lunch box.
 if you don't be home for several days, you leave each day with a special gift and a note that reminds you of how much you love your child.
 's birthday doesn't spend money on a big gift, but a party in a party.
 is considering a long-time gift: a combined tree or computer game that you can play together in the future.
 buy or make a special ring or necklace to wear directly from you.
 children find “good gifts” - wild flowers or interesting stones - and wrapped in a special paper or box.
 a special gift on Christmas birthday or Christmas, first asking the child's opinion. This engagement will give a more meaning to the gift.
 creates a table and notes the child's achievements with fun stickers. When a certain number of labels have been collected, the child is rewarded.
 makes a “secret drawer” where the child can store “treasure”, starting with the feathers of the bird and finally with a sachet of chewing gum.
If your child's main love language is PRACTICAL HELP …
 help the child to practise in a sport that he is fascinated with, for example, giving a baseball ball or catching back basketball bombs.
 if your child has problems with your computer, sit next to and help.
 don't send your little child to bed with words, better raise her, take it to the bed and rub the blanket.
 the school-age child, after waking up in the morning, you can pick a gown for this day.
 get up for half an hour and make a surprise breakfast for the baby.
 teach the child how important it is to help others.
 your little child sleeps or is in kindergarten, prepares his favorite toys so he can play with them at once (with you!)
 when you get to a event or meet, help the child quickly and not just make a hurry; so you'll be ready to leave.
 when the child is sick, do something else: turn a favorite movie, read the fairy tales, or buy a book from the favorite book series.
 the collaboration of a child and one of his friends or family members in the field of child interest, such as computer technology, football, piano, or emboldment.
 chooses an area where you can always help your child outside the absolute need. Examples could be: always putting a soldier in a cup of a child's cocoa, a favorite bear before bedtime surely put in a child's bed, putting everything in the drawing room when the child is about to draw.
 will introduce a birthday lunch tradition and prepare for the birthday of the child the food he wants.
 lists a variety of activities in which a child is happy to be with you. Then, when he least expects it, propose one of them.
 cards are prepared when the child is approached by a quiz or count. He had been working with the child until he had learned the material.
 help the child repair a favorite toy or bicycle. Just take a time for repairs by expressing love for a child whose love language is a practical help.
How to discover the child's main love language?
1. Observe how the child expresses love to you.
2. Observe how the child expresses love to others.
3. Listen to what the child is asking (asks, asks) most often.
4. Notices what the child is most likely to complain about.
5. Offers a child to choose from two options.
Whatever the language of your child, remember that it is important to speak in all five languages. Easy to make mistakes by choosing one language of love and ignoring the others. This is the case for gifts, as their acquisition seems to take less time and energy.
As parents, we must remember that the learning of the language of love is a maturing process, but ripening is a slow, painful and often complicated journey. By becoming multilingual, we also help children learn how to show and receive love in all the languages of love.